Experience
Why We Ask
Helping people discover meaning through deeper connection with God, themselves, and others.
Why We Ask: A Practical Guide to Purpose and Connection
Why We Ask explores a simple truth: We thrive when we connect. And connection begins with the questions we dare to ask—of God, of ourselves, and of one another.
Grounded in research and shaped by the Greatest Commandments, this book helps readers delve into the three “wells” from which meaning is drawn: loving God, loving ourselves, and loving others.
Inside, you’ll find:
Biblical insight presented alongside psychological research
Practical tools for building deeper relational and spiritual habits
Stories that illustrate how connection heals, transforms, and ignites purpose
Discussion questions for small groups, youth groups, and mentoring relationships
Available Formats:
Hardback • Paperback • Audiobook • eBook
Events
I speak on meaning, purpose, and the science of connection. My talks are research-based, relatable, and built to strengthen individuals and groups in churches, community groups, and business settings.
Common topics include:
The Three Wells of Meaning
How Jesus’ Great Commandments summarize how we're designed to thrive
Identity-based habit formation
Practical ways to build deeper connections in a shallow world
Below are two brief clips from a recent Men's church event about meaning and friendship.
From Session 1: Why Are We Here?
From Session 3: A Practical Guide to Friendship
Reviews & Testimonials
"This book is a breath of fresh air for a disconnected and anxious world. It's filled with authenticity and practical wisdom for a more fulfilling relational life."
What Was the Highlight of the Evening?
“Dirk's entire content.”
"It is easy to talk about friendship and the need we have for connection. It is another thing to talk about how we actually foster these relationships. Why We Ask will inspire you to want deeper friendships while giving you a path forward to more fruitful connections in all areas of life."
“Start a book club with this book! I did. We met today and are already making deeper connections in the group.”
“This book lays out a clear case for the centrality of love in any Christian's life, and more practically how to engage in meaningful relationships as a manifestation of that love.”
"A thoughtful and practical guide to forming meaningful relationships in all facets of life, backed by both biblical truths and science."
Dirk Bellamy
Author • Speaker • Research-Driven Encourager
I am an Engineering Manager, by occupation. The only reason that’s relevant is that it informs how I see the world: as a series of problems to be solved. Some years ago, I realized I needed more friends and I embarked on a journey to solve that problem. I found more answers than I ever expected.
Now I write and speak about connection, meaning, and the questions that shape us. Blending biblical reflection with insights from psychology and neuroscience, I help people understand why we long for God, identity, and belonging—and what gets in the way.
I live in Oregon. I have three amazing boys, the most whimsical daughter-in-law alive, a delightful-but-sometimes-naughty Siberian Husky, and a beautiful and talented wife who has helped me understand the pure magic of great questions.
I'm Excited to Hear From You!
Please reach out if you’d like to discuss:
- Scheduling me to speak at your live event
- Creating your own event around Why We Ask content
- Podcast interviews
- Using Why We Ask in a book club, small group, classroom, or leadership training
- Questions about how to get the most out of Why We Ask
- Collaboration projects involving meaning or relationship
- Other
Email: Connection.Press.1@gmail.com
