Experience
Why We Ask
Meaning isn't found in answers.
It emerges from the questions we ask, which ignite connection with others, ourselves, and what we care about most.
Why We Ask: A Practical Guide to Purpose and Connection
Why We Ask explores the transformative power of questions. Not just to understand the world, but to connect with others, grow personally, and cultivate a deeper sense of purpose. Drawing on psychology, research, ancient wisdom, and lived experience, the book offers practical tools for building deeper relationships and finding greater fulfillment.
We thrive when we connect, and not just with other people. This book helps readers delve into the three “wells” from which meaning flows: our connection with ourselves, with others, and with God.
Inside, you’ll find:
Insights from psychology, research, and Biblical wisdom
Practical tools for building deeper relational and spiritual habits
Stories that illustrate how connection heals, transforms, and stirs purpose
Discussion questions for small groups, youth groups, mentoring relationships, and 1:1 friendship journeys
Available Formats:
Hardback • Paperback • Audiobook • eBook
Events
I speak on meaning, purpose, and the science of connection. My talks are research-based, relatable, and built to strengthen individuals and groups in workplaces, community groups, and faith-based settings.
Common topics include:
The Three Wells of Meaning
Practical ways to build deeper connections in a shallow world
Identity-based habit formation
Below is a brief clip from a recent event about meaning and friendship.
From Session 3: A Practical Guide to Friendship
Reviews & Testimonials
"This book is a breath of fresh air for a disconnected and anxious world. It's filled with authenticity and practical wisdom for a more fulfilling relational life."
What Was the Highlight of the Evening?
“Dirk's entire content.”
"It is easy to talk about friendship and the need we have for connection. It is another thing to talk about how we actually foster these relationships. Why We Ask will inspire you to want deeper friendships while giving you a path forward to more fruitful connections in all areas of life."
“Start a book club with this book! I did. We met today and are already making deeper connections in the group.”
“This book lays out a clear case for the centrality of love in any Christian's life, and more practically how to engage in meaningful relationships as a manifestation of that love.”
"A thoughtful and practical guide to forming meaningful relationships in all facets of life, backed by both biblical truths and science."
Dirk Bellamy
Author • Speaker • Research-Driven Encourager
I am an Engineering Manager, by occupation. The only reason that’s relevant is that it informs how I see the world: as a series of problems to be solved. Some years ago, I realized I needed more friends and I embarked on a journey to solve that problem. I found more answers than I ever imagined.
Now I write and speak about connection, meaning, and the questions that shape us. Blending biblical reflection with insights from psychology and neuroscience, I help people understand why we long for God, identity, and belonging—and what gets in the way.
I live in Oregon. I have three amazing boys, the most whimsical daughter-in-law alive, a delightful-but-sometimes-naughty Siberian Husky, and a beautiful and talented wife who has helped me understand the pure magic of great questions.
I'm Excited to Hear From You!
Please reach out if you’d like to discuss:
- Scheduling me to speak at your live event
- Creating your own event around Why We Ask content
- Podcast interviews
- Using Why We Ask in a book club, small group, classroom, or leadership training
- Questions about how to get the most out of Why We Ask
- Collaboration projects involving meaning or relationship
- Other
Email: Connection.Press.1@gmail.com
